Friday, January 2, 2015
Book Review: The Birth Order Connection: Finding and Keeping the Love of Your Life
Most people expect to get married, have their marriage last a lifetime, and enjoy a marital relationship that fulfills their deepest emotional needs. Yet few people experience this type of relationship. Statistics show that approximately 20 million divorced people live in our country, and the median duration of any given marriage is just 7.2 years. Few people consider the role that their birth order has played in developing their own personality, how it has affected their prospective spouse\u2019s personality, or how the two personalities might make it living under one roof. As a result, after the initial intoxicating infatuation ends, most married couples are left to work their way through the agonizing hangover of conflicting birth orders. In The Birth Order Connection, Dr. Kevin Leman helps readers avoid such conflicts before they arise. He shows how to find and recognize the best and wisest choice fora life partner, provides tools to succeed in marriage, and teaches how an understanding of birth order can do wonders not only for future marriages but for those that have already begun.
"The Birth Order Connection: Finding and Keeping the Love of Your Life" is a non-fiction, book in a genre I can't really place (maybe Self-help? Relationships? Counseling? you decide) by author Dr. Kevin Leman.
As the name implies, the book is a one-stop shop for people looking for their soulmates, who they are compatible with, in order to have a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship... The author explains (in my own words) that compatibility isn't just about trial and error, there are clear ways of knowing if someone is compatible with another person simply by analysing their birth orders (predestined personality).
There's an explanation for people's personalities depending on if they are first borns (male or female), the middle child or children (male or female), the baby or babies of the house (male or female), the only child (male or female), born into large families or small families; also on the role of the parents (absent, negligent, parenting several kids in different generations or times, older siblings playing the parent role), etc. Most, if not all, of what was said in this book seemed so real to me judging by some families that I know, mine included.
I really cannot put spoilers in here... there's a lot to read and chew on, so getting into it here will do no good.
In all, it was an interesting read and very enlightening. Although I didn't agree with some of the advices given (I had even dropped the book after I finished the part titled "Red Flags." You'll understand when you get to that part), I actually learned a lot.
I do recommend this to all those looking to take the next step in their relationships.